How to find true love.
I am very embarrassed to say that I was a serial dater. I thought the reason was simple I like women. After a deeper dive and some therapy visits we discovered I didn't want to have a relationship like my parents. They had eight kids and they fought often, and I knew that was not love. Every time I saw myself get close to someone; I would throw a wrench in it. Two years was the longest I ever went with one person.
That was until I got the best advice about love I have ever received. Like I stated in a previous post I was in a relationship, and I hated myself, and shortly after that the advice came to me.
She told me what she tried after her divorce and a few days later met the man of her dreams. She currently has five kids and is still madly in love several years later. So, to be very transparent I was skeptical at first but at the age of about 41 years old and never married I said why not. What she had me do changed my love life forever and I have shared it with others, and it helped them find true love also.
I'm excited to share it with you and I hope that you find true love. If you're single, casually dating, and or in a dead-end relationship get excited because this does work.
Supplies you will need: find a quiet place, a journal or black piece of paper and finally a pen (not a pencil) a glass or red or tea is optional. On the top of the page write the words 10 non negotiables all you need to do is write down 10 things you will not settle for in a relationship. Warning, if you're in a dead-end relationship don't list all the things you hate about the person, you're with, that might lead you to the wrong person. Some of mine were must want kids, would make a great mom, is driven and is secure with themselves. That is just some of what I was looking for and some of the qualities that are important to me. Write all of yours out and know that they will come to you in your life.
What this will do is give you a guide map to the right person for you. If you start talking to someone and they only have five of the qualities you won't waste your time with them. Too often people miss the right one because they're going through the motions with somebody.
I often get asked what if they have eight or nine out of the 10 can I date them? No
Too many people settle because they don't want to be alone. I'd rather be alone than in a relationship that is going nowhere.
Once I made this list and read it every day for about a month. I got an instant message on Facebook out of the blue from someone I worked with 12 years prior who was in Europe on a cruise ship. We said all about a handful of words when we worked together back in the day. She wrote me these words “hey I remember you you're that funny guy”. We wrote back and forth for a few days and I realized she checked off every one of my non negotiables. Some might say coincidence I laugh and say OK.
Stay genuine!