What is love exactly?

Some of us don't know exactly what love is, we see our parents chasing each other around the dining room table crying and yelling one minute and the next minute saying the words I'm sorry. Then we have the other parents that just go through the motions. On the complete opposite end of the spectrum, you have parents that can't keep their hands off each other and are led by passion. Not too many people sit down and write out what love is for them they may seek the opposite of what they watched growing up some might want exactly what they watched growing up.

Because we don't game plan our love direction and what we're looking for love finds us for better or worse. We go to a bar, talk to someone online or by chance meet someone at work. We start out by having a conversation and find out we have a few things in common, so the conversation continues. You take the relationship to the next level and exchange numbers and start texting. Because it's new and you're both single you start to text back and forth. You keep getting dopamine hits every time they laugh at your jokes or text you right back. The attraction grows because this is better than being single. After texting comes the flirting and the attraction builds.

I believe going on your first and second date is like going on a job interview you get all dressed up and put your best foot forward. We keep our gas inside and we suddenly use a fork and knife to cut our pizza and wings and our F bombs get replaced with pleases and thank you.

You look at the other person and think it's so cute how they sip their drink, it's amazing they are so into their sports team, or they are so friendly and talk to everyone.

Fast forward six months.

Your skin crawls from the other room because how they sip their drink while watching another game yelling at the screen with every F bomb they can all while texting all their friends. Oh and by the way do you remember all the gas they were keeping in on the first date? It's out.

Now for some this is good, it's better than being alone. They think to themselves once we get married, they will get better.

Alert Alert Alert no they won't.

People will get married and have children and the cycle will repeat itself over and over. In the later post I will share how to find the person of your dreams. They won't be perfect at all, but they will be perfect for you.

Stay genuine!