Love backwards
So, as I sat on my porch and listened to my friend tell me a coworker of ours passed away, I like most people stopped in my tracks. I was in disbelief, and I didn't know him that well. What I did know about him was he had a great smile he was driven, genuine and way too young to pass on. The days that followed were tough and emotionally draining. Zoom meetings were held and our managers talked about what an amazing individual he was and how talented he was. Coworkers told of stories of how he did this that and the other thing. He had a lot of friends and he knew he was loved, I think. After hearing every story about him and what an amazing person he was I really wish I knew him better. He passed away because of underlying health conditions and all the stories that were told after his passing would not have saved his life or brought him back, but it would have been nice for him to have heard it all while he was still here.
Too many take their own lives for some it's not their fault it's the illness's fault. Easy for so many to sit and call them selfish for doing that to their loved ones. It's not their fault they didn't take their life the illness did.
Sometimes addiction takes over and there is no way out and they can't see what the addiction is doing inside their body and before you know it, they are gone. Some not all it's not their fault the illness took over.
I am not a doctor or a licensed professional but what if we loved people backwards. Actors musicians die and they show all their movies and play their music nonstop on the radio. While they were on this earth they were talked about and put down for this that or the other thing they did but when they are gone all that is talked about is their greatness. Same goes for friends and family after they pass on, we look at their pictures and say all these amazing things about them.
Love backwards I challenge each one of you to tell family, friends loved ones, coworkers or someone you just met something you noticed about them. We say I love you sometimes like we say good morning to people in passing. Slow the words down and put meaning behind it. Don't wait until someone passes away to say how great they are you should tell them now. This world is getting a bit cynical bright someone's day. Sit down and give them a call So what if you texted them 44 times yesterday call them. Sit down and hand write them a note or a card how great would you feel if someone wrote you telling you a few things they liked about you. (Best day ever)
Please don't save all the good stuff for their eulogy tell them today. Then when they do pass on you will have no regrets and you can just smile and know they know.
Stay GENUINE.